How To Know If She’s ‘The One’

Proposing to my wife was a big choice. For most men, the decision to get married isn’t something that happens easily. It takes lots of thought, questioning, and really digging deep.

For most men, the idea of getting married is a scary decision. Choosing to commit, for most men, brings up all sorts of questions. “Is this the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with? Am I sure she’s the one? Is this the woman who truly makes me happy? The barrage of questions seems endless. The choice is big and it requires knowing yourself well.

For me, the decision to marry my wife required me to really ask some hard questions. If you’re wondering what it takes to decide if she’s the one – here are some questions you can ask yourself to help you decide if she’s the one.

She’s Your Best Friend

I can’t think of anyone I want to spend more time with. My wife makes me laugh, have fun, take wild adventures, and we always have fun. If your partner is someone you love spending time with then you can rest confident that she’ll be someone you want to commit to.

She Makes You Feel Safe

My wife makes me feel safe. I know she won’t cheat, leave me, or betray me. I trust her wholeheartedly. My wife has shown me with her repeated commitment to me that she will always stand by my side. I don’t ever question her love to me. If you’re thinking about marrying someone, it’s crucial you feel that this person is going to stick around. Rain, sunshine, snow, sleet, hail, or whatever comes – if you feel they’ll stand by your side then you can rest assured – she’s worth the commitment.

She Surprises You

It’s great to have someone you can count on, feel safe with, and love. It’s crucial you have that and it’s also important that your wife-to-be surprises you. My wife surprises me. She is full of great surprises. Each day, it seems, I get to learn something new from her. Some new fact, some new adventure, some new dream, there’s always something that she brings to our relationship that is new. The surprises are important. It keeps things fresh. In fact, I believe the happiest couples are ones who are always learning from each other. 

You’re Willing To Improve For Her

One of the biggest setbacks in a relationship is lack of improving. Making yourself better will always help the relationship thrive. Love depends on two people being willing to grow, change, and become better.

When you’re willing and committed to becoming a better man for the person you love – it’s a big sign that you could be happy marrying.

Love takes work and if you’re both interested in improving than you’re that much more likely to have a relationship that makes you both happy.

You Feel Like Yourself When You’re Together

This is a hard one to explain, but for love it’s crucial. The feeling that you’re just yourself while with someone is essential to your happiness

When it comes to my wife, when I’m with her I feel that she loves me for me – not for some other reason. Her love feels unconditional.

If you’re asking if you should get married, start by asking yourself, “Do I feel like myself when we’re together? Do I feel good when we share our time?” If the answers are yes, that’s a great sign you’re with someone you could marry. Marriage is a big decision. It’s one that will shape your future, her future, and ultimately alter your life paths.

By taking the time consider some of these questions, you’re guaranteed to make a decision that will serve you and your partner for many decades to come.


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