Dear Fellow Mama In Waiting,
Welcome to the mom tribe. I know how you must be feeling right now, I know because I’ve been there too. These last few weeks have felt excruciatingly long, you’re hot and exhausted and everyone keeps asking if the baby is here. It’s easy to feel not only anxious but also impatient to meet the little one. You’re probably googling “how to naturally induce labour” and have tried eating spicy foods or going on long walks hoping to nudge your baby to head towards the exit.
Fellow Mama, slow down because life speeds up in front of your eyes once you finally get to meet your little one. Right now, it’s just you and baby. You have the sole honour to feel every stretch and kick. Right now, you are one with your baby and you may be feeling like you want your body back. Don’t worry, it will take some time but you will get there.
Childbirth is tough no doubt about it but when you’re in the moment don’t forget to breathe. Close your eyes if you have to, hold on to a loved one and just breathe. You and your child are not alone and you will meet soon.
I’ll always remember the moment I met my daughter. Time froze. I never thought I would ever become a mom and here I was being handed this crying child. I remember saying oh my god to which she instantly stopped crying, we finally met and life would never be the same again.
They say the first three months are the hardest. What makes them tough is the adjustment period. Your body is working overtime to heal from the ordeal that childbirth was. You are dealing with your new motherhood identity which can cause feelings of guilt and shame because the reality doesn’t always match up to the fantasy we pictured. Your child is learning to adapt from a water environment to an air environment where everything is new, what is happening and where is my mommy? Some days will be tough. It can feel like stepping into a time vortex where time is super slow. I don’t know how we do it but believe me you will get through it and you are not alone although it can sometimes feel like it.
After the first three months, things will start to settle. You’ll start to feel like Okay I think I’m getting the hang of this motherhood thing. Then the next challenge will come to which you will adapt to.
In the first year of your baby’s life, you will see them go from clenching to unclenching their fists. From not being able to hold their neck still and despising tummy time to not only being able to hold it themselves but to turn their neck from side to side. You’ll see them master rolling from front to back and back to front. Before you know it they will eventually master sitting up by themselves, pulling themselves up to stand and then the big ticket- the first steps.
So fellow mama savour this time now because when you look back on your motherhood journey a year from now you’ll be that much more grateful for it.